Life Is Fragile

Next week is the one year anniversary of my friend breaking his neck on a mountain bike. He is a qudraplegic and  says that he wishes he hadn’t survived the accident.

One second he was in perfect health, and the next second his life was wrecked.

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14 Responses to Life Is Fragile

  1. Latitude says:

    that breaks my heart…..be a good friend…I know you will

  2. Disillusioned says:

    Wow. But for the grace of God, there go I. Bless your friend, and bless you for being his.

  3. John B., M.D. says:

    Damn. I remember this from last year. Biking scares me so I do most training on the stationary bike. When outdoors, I ride in a corporate area with few cars on weekends.
    Running, I still have to be careful of drivers blowing through stop signs (into the crosswalk) while texting or talking on the damn phone.

  4. Eric Simpson says:

    Horrible. And as I have been trying to mountain bike more, that hits home. I guess there’s a small flicker of hope, as I was just watching Fox & Friends and they had a swimmer on, Victoria Arlen, who was also paralyzed in an accident. She was talking about new technologies, and hope. Maybe she will walk again someday, she said. So perhaps there is some hope.

  5. omnologos says:

    medicine is still in its dark ages

  6. Dear Steven’s friend,

    In case you haven’t already seen it, I’d like to recommend to you 2 Corinthians 12:1-10. I know it can seem bad to survive such a tragic accident, but there is a reason why it happened that way. We don’t generally know what the future holds for others. And we may have no idea what it holds for us. But that is the way our Creator wants it to be at this time. Try not to despair about such things, but rather call on the Name of the Lord with all your heart, and your words will not return void.

    Sincerely,
    Richard Fowler

  7. David Y says:

    You are spot on. Three truths: 1) Life is hard (if lived in earnest; and each one of us will encounter difficulty and be challenged, whether we acknowledge this or not); 2) Life is incredibly uncertain (there is no guarantee of a tomorrow, much less a particular kind of tomorrow); and 3) Life is absolutely, utterly amazing.

    All of this was brought home to us when our then-5 month old started having uncontrollable seizures, due to an until-then undetected large malformation in his brain. We never knew if he would walk, talk, or even recognize us. When the Lord (or whatever you might believe; atheists can insert “universe” here) re-sets your baseline of expectations of life to zero, everything you get is a demonstration of beauty, and a miracle.

    I’ve noticed a lot of my more liberal-leaning friends take many things for granted (one dramatic example is “I’ll abort this baby because of course I’ll be able to have another one”; or “of course we should all have these ten things for free”; or countless other examples–and it’s not restricted to libs, btw). We are owed NOTHING in this world. That said, the transition from ‘having it all’ to your friend’s situation is one that I cannot imagine. It’s up to the rest of us to help fill that void and give meaning. I get a sense your friend is lucky to have you Steve.

  8. gator69 says:

    Our lives are not always meant for us, he must learn that there are others who are grateful for his survival. My father suffered terribly for years near the end if his life and tlod me he was not afraid of death. My mother called him her Job, and was devastated when he did finally pass. We all learned alot from my father’s trials.

    God bless you and your friend.

  9. Robertv says:

    Life is all about being on the wrong place on the wrong moment, or not.

  10. Andy DC says:

    I can’t comprehend why some people are made to suffer like that. Maybe God has a mysterious plan, but for me it is hard to accept or comprehend.

    I personally know 2 people that have been killed in bike accidents and a third basically reduced to a vegetable. A very good friend, relatively young and athletic, recently had his wrist shattered and two pins put in when his shoelace got caught in the spokes. For you bikers out there, please be careful.

    • Read the passage I cited, as it contains the Lord’s answer to your question. Also Isaiah 55:9 — His ways are not our ways, and His thoughts are not our thoughts.

      You write, “[. . .] but for me it is hard to accept or comprehend”. You mean hard for you to believe. Jesus said “Except you see miracles, you will not believe”! (my emphasis). Not everyone is meant to see them, and that’s why if you haven’t but would like to, you have to call on His Name with all your heart. That’s a test that is applied to us. I didn’t learn this lesson until I was almost 35 years old. It’s an experiential proof, and you are not expected to believe in the supernatural without proof. But you are expected to recognize that there’s nothing inappropriate about closing some eyes and opening others. Observing this process teaches us the value of obedience, and the ability to discern God’s Will. These are crucial lessons for us in a fallen world, and without suffering we are utterly unale to learn them.

      Sorry Steven, I’ll get off my soapbox now. Your tolerance is greatly appreciated.

  11. Don Allen says:

    Thank you all for some wonderful comments.

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